Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you. –Hebrews 13:17 (KJV)

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THE WRONG WAY. Ronald Enroth, Churches That Abuse (Zondervan, 1992).

THE RIGHT WAY. Thomas C. Oden, Pastoral Theology: Essentials of Ministry (HarperOne, 1983). This was a standard textbook on pastoral ministry in the conservative Wesleyan churches.