You shall not commit adultery. –Exodus 20:14
I believe that for every sin against the law of God, there is a demon that tempts people to commit that sin. I especially believe there is a demon of adultery, which tempts both husbands and wives alike to fuel their carnal, fleshly natures, of which Jesus said, “Out of the heart come evil thoughts…adultery, sexual immorality” (Matthew 15:19). Man has a fallen, depraved, sinful nature–a predisposition to adultery, marital unfaithfulness, and sexual immorality. The FLESH is predisposed towards its own selfish sexual gratification, regardless if it would hurt the ones we love…so it will seek to justify watching sex scenes in movies, or looking at porn. The FLESH does not believe in marriage to only one spouse, but would prefer to join itself to any person it pleases. The WORLD does not help Christians to fulfill their marital vows:–women, both single and married alike, dress like prostitutes these days, especially during the Spring and Summer seasons. Whether you’re at work, or Walmart, or church, or the beach, the pool, the park:–they feel that in order to “look beautiful,” they need to “look sexy” and wear barely anything at all: to dress themselves in such a manner as to accentuate their boobs, butt, curves, etc; to wear spaghetti straps, revealing bra straps, underwear, and basically the kinds of things young, horny women wear to a NIGHTCLUB, where they seek to be deflowered by some horny drunkard.
The DEVIL also sends evil spirits out into the earth to TEMPT men to fornicate (to have sexual experiences outside of marriage); or to commit ADULTERY (to come up with excuses to have sexual experiences with another woman other than the one you are currently married to). “A spirit of prostitution leads them astray; they are unfaithful to their God…their deeds do not permit them to return to their God. A spirit of prostitution is in their heart; they do not acknowledge the Lord” (Hosea 4:12; 5:4). St. Antony said this was a literal demon that once identified itself to him in an open vision: “I am the friend of fornication. How many who wanted to live prudently I have deceived! How many of those exercising self-control I won over when I agitated them! I am the one on whose account the prophet reprimands those who fall, saying, you have ‘been led astray by a spirit of fornication‘ (Hosea 4:12). For it was by my devices that they were tripped. I am he who so frequently troubled you and so many times was overturned by you” (The Life of Antony, ch. 6).
Certainly spirits like this are prevailing on the world and the church nowadays. With the American divorce rate at 50% right now, its clear we need to be wary of the devil’s schemes and check our hearts by the law of God: “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). Don’t be self-righteous, be humble; and God will give you the grace to overcome the sexually immoral sins of your heart.
The ONLY Four Biblical Reasons to
Divorce Your Current Spouse and Marry Another
1. Death. “By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage” (Romans 7:2). The reverse applies if the wife dies and the husband lives. It is not then against God for the surviving spouse to marry a new Christian spouse. The Book of Common Prayer says, “I take thee to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, TILL DEATH DO US PART, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.”
2. Desertion by the Other Spouse. “If the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace” (1 Corinthians 7:15). Matthew Henry said of this verse, “Not tied up to the unreasonable humour, and bound servilely to follow or cleave to the malicious deserter, or not bound to live unmarried after all proper means for reconciliation have been tried, at least of the deserter contract another marriage or be guilty of adultery, which was a very easy supposition, because a very common instance among the heathen inhabitants of Corinth. In such a case the deserted person must be free to marry again, and it is granted on all hands. And some think that such a malicious desertion is as much a dissolution of the marriage-covenant as death itself. For how is it possible that the two shall be one flesh when the one is maliciously bent to part from or put away the other? Indeed, the deserter seems still bound by the matrimonial contract; and therefore the apostle says (1 Corinthians 7:11), If the woman depart from her husband upon the account of his infidelity, let her remain unmarried. But the deserted party seems to be left more at liberty (I mean supposing all the proper means have been used to reclaim the deserter, and other circumstances make it necessary) to marry another person. It does not seem reasonable that they should be still bound, when it is rendered impossible to perform conjugal duties or enjoy conjugal comforts, through the mere fault of their mate: in such a case marriage would be a state of servitude indeed. But, whatever liberty be indulged Christians in such a case as this, they are not allowed, for the mere infidelity of a husband or wife, to separate; but, if the unbeliever be willing, they should continue in the relation, and cohabit as those who are thus related. This is the apostle’s general direction.”
3. Adultery of the Other Spouse. “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery” (Matthew 19:9). When Jesus Christ said this, He was combating some lewd and horny Sadducees who believed that divorce and remarriage could be committed as many times as you like, and for any reason. Jesus basically said to them, “Unless your wife commits adultery against you, then it is a sin against God for you to divorce her!” However, in the issue of a spouse deserting you, Jesus left it to the Apostle Paul to address that (1 Cor. 7:15).
4. Cruelty, or Physical Abuse. I have long wondered about this one. And I am convinced that physical abuse would also be a reason for divorce. The Puritans called it cruelty; and saw it as a valid reason. It says in Titus 1:7, KJV, “A bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker”–and are not men the bishops of their households, in a religion that calls every Christian a royal priesthood and a holy nation? (1 Pet. 2:9). So, no husband can be a striker either.
Anything else than these four Biblical permissions–its a SIN AGAINST GOD to divorce!
Don’t follow Todd Bentley and his loosey-goosey example.
Don’t be an adulterer–at heart or in your life.
Have integrity and be a righteous man or righteous woman.
Confess and repent and pray through your struggles with your spouse, because you can only get through it together.